Couple Counselling

Helping couples to resolve conflicts and rebuild trust.

Are you struggling in your relationship and feeling that you can’t get beyond the constant arguing, blaming, shutting down or withdrawing? You may be dealing with a difficult situation, or issues relating to parenting, infertility, sexual intimacy, infidelity or the breakdown of trust to name a few. Many couples will experience relationship problems at some point. Couples counselling can help show you both how to identify what you need from your relationship and how to reach out and connect with your partner to get these needs met.

I have post graduate training and am an accredited Emotionally Focused Therapist and Supervisor approved by the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT – visit iceeft.com for more information). This rigorously researched approach to couples’ therapy over the past 30 years has been found to be one of the most effective. This is not a perspective that offers couples strategies and advice. Rather, it recognises the core dimension of humanity – the centrality of relationships to our wellbeing and the power of secure connection with a trusted partner in restoring and maintaining a calm brain. EFT helps couples to be more emotionally accessible, responsive and engaged with each other by increasing communication and decreasing reactivity.

During couple therapy my goal is to support you both to safely share your experience of your relationship at the deepest level – at the heart of the matter. We will look at the feedback loop of individual stuck places and the habitual responses that fuel the disconnection between you. I will help you to open up to each other and to identify, share and communicate your raw spots and difficult emotions. As you recognise and transform your blaming and/or distancing behaviours you become more emotionally available to each other. This redefines your relationship as safe and secure. We can face a lot that life throws at us when we feel safe and secure.

If you are concerned or you think counselling may not be for you at his moment you might prefer a Hold Me Tight® Workshop. If you are interested in this two day, intensive, relationship enhancement education workshop please see HMT.

I also offer an intensive private and personalised couple therapy. This is a bespoke package, flexibly structured for up to 4 hours per day for two or three days. It is for couples who are time short and for whom it will be difficult to commit to regular weekly sessions. The structure and safety of an Intensive will give you the space and time to focus exclusively on the challenges of your relationship and help you move through some of the overwhelming distress and immediate crisis. This will give you the opportunity to take a big picture look at your relationship as well as understanding intricacies of where it goes wrong. This therapy intensive is designed to help you emerge with understanding, renewed hope, a direction and a focus for moving forward.

If you think you might like to work with me, please contact me.