Helping couples to resolve conflicts and rebuild trust.
Are you struggling in your relationship and feeling that you can’t get beyond the constant arguing, blaming, shutting down or withdrawing? You may be dealing with a difficult situation, or issues relating to parenting, infertility, sexual intimacy, infidelity or the breakdown of trust to name a few. Many couples will experience relationship problems at some point. Couples counselling can help show you both how to identify what you need from your relationship and how to reach out and connect with your partner to get these needs met.
I have post graduate training in Emotionally Focussed Therapy (EFT- visit www.iceeft.com for more information). This rigorously researched approach to couples therapy has been found to be one of the most effective. This is not a perspective that offers couples strategies and advice. Rather, it recognises the core dimension of humanity – the centrality of relationships to our wellbeing and the power of secure connection with a trusted partner in restoring and maintaining a calm brain. EFT helps couples to be more emotionally accessible, responsive and engaged with each other by increasing communication and decreasing reactivity.
During couples therapy my goal is to support you both to safely share your experience of your relationship at the deepest level – at the heart of the matter. We will look at the feedback loop of individual stuck places and the habitual responses that fuel the disconnection between you. I will help you to open up to each other and to identify, share and communicate your raw spots and difficult emotions. As you recognise and transform your blaming and/or distancing behaviours you become more emotionally available to each other. This redefines your relationship as safe and secure. We can face a lot that life throws at us when we feel safe and secure.
If you think you might like to work with me, please contact me.